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It may flatter his ego, but the majority of men perceive women who ask them out to be a little desperate, easy, and maybe only looking for either casual sex or a quick husband.
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It may flatter his ego, but the majority of men perceive women who ask them out to be a little desperate, easy, and maybe only looking for either casual sex or a quick husband.
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Whuuuuuut? You know me. Though I was intrigued by his advice, I felt his vantage point was a bit stilted. What did I do? I gave my two cents, of course. And what did he do? He emailed me back. HE ACTUALLY EMAILED ME BACK!!!!! Check this out:
--- On Wed, 2/9/11, Dr Ronn Elmore <info@drronn.com> wrote:
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Suzette:
Thanks for your comments. Not only do I think what you are doing is NOT asking a man out, I think it IS a BRILLIANT example of using the power of dignified, feminine influence to make it easy for men to initiate asking you out. Plus, you get HUGE extra credit by taking advantage of the incredible benefits of online dating sites. The “hello notes”, witty remarks, *67 follow-up calls, etc. are all smart, savvy ways to maximum YOUR own contribution to the process—without taking over HIS. And look at the results: a dramatic increase in dating opportunities (and with telephone “pre-screened” men at that). Brilliant!
If we had a Finding-Soulmate-Success trophy for smart, dating participation strategies you, my dear, would be this week’s winner. You are doing great and I am VERY proud of you. Please be sure to always post great input like this on my blog at FindingSoulmateSuccess.com. You’ll help so many women succeed too.
To your GREAT success;
Dr. Ronn
P.S. – And, when the time comes,please holler back with your engagement announcement. With the way you are thinking and taking action I expect that day is on its way! J
From: Suzette Hinton [mailto:suzettehinton@yahoo.com]
Sent: Thursday, February 03, 2011 10:42 AM
To: Info@DrRonn.com
Subject: Comment for Should You Ever Ask A Man Out?
Sent: Thursday, February 03, 2011 10:42 AM
To: Info@DrRonn.com
Subject: Comment for Should You Ever Ask A Man Out?
Hi Dr. Ronn,
I hear what you're saying but I've found things to be different when you're re-entering the dating world at 51 and are meeting potential men online. First, I am learning to stay in my lane. And that lane is men who are looking for something long-term. I have found that by sending a hello message with something witty draws men to my profile. Then during the introductions, I make my intentions known in a warm and charming fashion, inviting them to share their intentions for being on the site. The guy does offer his telephone number first or suggest that we exchange numbers first. I don't initiate that. I tend to call first with a *67 in front of their number so that Private comes up on their phone. If I like them and feel that there is something worth pursuing, I take it off private. During discussions I ask specific questions to find out their availability to date. If it sounds compatible with mine, I suggest that we meet face-to-face. So far, it has worked well for me. I've had three dates within a week of reactivating my online profile and have two coming up: one tonight and another tomorrow for lunch.
So, though it may be arguable whether I actually asked the man out for a date, to me it's necessary to see who is on the site just for kicks and those who are serious about dating.
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